In 2019, I traveled alone from the US to Europe and loved it. The reasons are explained in a post called Expect the Unexpected, although one thing I didn't mention in that post is that my husband prefers trips where things go according to plan, while I prefer a moderate level of challenge, exploration, and surprise. Most of the time this makes us a great team, even though I usually experience travel magic when encountering the unexpected, while his contentment usually comes from avoiding the unexpected. That's why my occasional solo trips work for us, and he travels alone on occasion too. Earlier this month I headed off to Athens, Greece. Given that I enjoy the entire travel experience, waves of euphoria can start as soon as I get dropped off at the airport. But this trip had me a little worried because I didn't really feel euphoric during my flight. (Think "full flight" and "small seat".) So you can imagine my relief when I got off the plane in Istanbul for a layover, and that euphoric feeling descended upon me. Even if I was only in the airport, Istanbul felt new and exotic. I'd watched a few YouTube videos, so knew that the airport is huge and that the most transportation help I'd receive while getting from one gate to another would be moving walkways. Apparently you might need to walk up to a mile between gates! Thankfully, I had a two and half hour layover, so figured all would go well. I also know myself well enough to know that focusing would be my key to success because I'm easily distracted, especially when I'm having fun. We deplaned at Gate D9, and I breathed a sigh of relief to see that I'd be departing from Gate D10, knowing then that there was no way anything could go wrong. So I relaxed and settled in at very nice work area with plenty of electrical outlets and a view. It was just a few gates away from D10, so I could avoid the congestion of people gathering which would start happening before long. While I wasn't right at my departure gate, I was close enough to pack up and be there in a minute when it was time to board. My fun had begun, and I was already posting photos for my family in a private Facebook album and making new friends at the work area. People in airports are usually like people on chairlifts; interesting! Still, I could feel my brain fading given that I hadn't slept in over 24 hours, and even though I was having a lot of fun, the layover felt longer than expected. Because I was so eager get to Athens, and maybe even sleep a bit on the 90 minute flight that would get me there, I headed to the gate about ten minutes before boarding was even scheduled to start. Arriving a minute later, I was initially confused because there was nobody at the gate; literally nobody. I've traveled enough to know that gates change, and flights sometimes board early, so I was glad I'd allowed the extra time and quickly checked the Departures screen. My flight wasn't even listed. Nor was any other flight that departed at the same time (or earlier). You've probably figured this out by now, but I confused the time and had literally missed the flight! The good news, if there is any good news in this story, is that even though I'm a generally excitable person, when I get stressed, I usually become ultra calm and very focused. So even though I was still struggling with denial, I high-tailed it to the nearby Turkish Airlines Service Center I'd seen earlier. At the same time, I was trying to figure out how I'd made this mistake and concluded that the combo of my lack of sleep, the 24-hour time convention, the time difference between Athens and Istanbul, and my lack of sleep made for one bad mental cocktail. Thankfully, I quickly found my way to a long desk filled with service agents ready to help, so I walked right up to a friendly-looking woman and explained that I had messed up and feared that I'd missed my flight. Honestly, I was still holding out hope that she'd tell me there had been a gate change and provide a simple solution, but that's not how things went. Instead, she indignantly asked how that could happen, and the best I could offer was to honestly report that I was having so much fun I confused the time in my head and just missed it. That made her very mad, and while I don't remember exactly what she said, I do remember being left with the feeling that I should have been paying more attention! That seemed obvious, and not really worth driving home in the moment, but I let her express herself completely before asking if she'd be willing to help me get to Athens. She pointed toward some other agents and told me to get in line. The good news is that the line was short. The bad news is that the people being helped by the two available agents were sitting in chairs with open laptops and/or phones in their laps. I wasn't getting the sense that these were fast-moving lines. And it was at this point that I remembered another thing I'd learned on YouTube; Turkish airlines is known for their great food and abrasive service. I had definitely experienced both. I was feeling really stupid, but I also knew that all I could do was resolve the problem and keep trying to make forward motion. The Service Center was busy, and I'd beat a bit of a rush, so to a certain extent I was feeling lucky. And, I had to admit, this was definitely an unexpected adventure, and I already knew it was going to be a funny story that, at the very least, would help my family and friends feel savvy, or at least savvier than me. While waiting in line, I was learning enough to help others who were arriving and feeling as confused as I had felt just a few minutes earlier. I was comforted by talking with a guy who looked very smart and capable after he admitted to having done exactly what I did; becoming distracted and just missing his flight. But I sensed he was traveling on business and didn't have the flexibility I did, so that made me feel lucky. I also spent quite a while talking with an enthusiastic young man on his way to Pakistan to get married. By the end of our conversation, he had invited me to attend his wedding! (I politely declined not feeling like this trip needed much more "adventure".) Finally it was my turn to get some help from a service agent, so I repeated my story, and the typing began. There was no scolding from this agent, an older man, but there was also no sympathy. Many minutes later, after typing the equivalent of War and Peace into his computer, he told me that there was a flight to Athens in the morning, and he could get me on it. While I was feeling a bit desperate, I also felt the need to be smart, or at least less dumb, so asked what seemed like a logical question, "Will there be a charge?" There was a very long pause while he typed some more. During that pause I convinced myself that I shouldn't let $150 upset me, and while he kept typing I decided to increase that amount to $500 thinking that, in the scheme of things, $500 would not change the outcome of my life. So, I have to admit, I was a bit "surprised" when he said it would cost me $721. (My original round-trip flight had only cost $664!) I know from experience that you often have to push people to help you get what you want sometimes, so told him that I did not want to spend that much money. I asked for alternatives, and at the same time looked up the prices of other flights on my phone. I found a flight to Athens that left in two hours, and it only cost $150, so I asked if he could put me on that one. That's when I learned that I was required to change my existing ticket to avoid cancelling my return flights. What?! Given that I was standing in Istanbul, it was not my desired destination, I was not in peak mental condition, and I was struggling to understand what the agent was saying, I decided to cut my losses and just buy the darn ticket. I overheard another agent tell a customer that there are "no hotels at the airport", so, in the end, I just stayed at the airport overnight and tried to get a little sleep. The airport contains quite a few nap/sleep areas and quite a few lounge chairs. So after weaving the straps of my carry-on luggage through my arms, covering my face with a scarf and playing soothing music through my noise-cancelling earbuds, I relaxed and did get a bit sleep while worrying I was going to look even dumber if I slept through the next flight ... which I did not do. The next morning I was at my gate on time, flew to Athens, figured out the metro system, and made it to my Vrbo apartment by noon. By 6:00 pm I'd been out to eat, purchased groceries, and showered. I think I even fell asleep blow drying my hair right before crawling into bed. I wish I could tell you that was the end of my travel drama, but nine days later, just before heading off to bed at 12:41 am, I received a text from Turkish Airlines letting me know that my return flight from Athens to Istanbul had been cancelled. Knowing I wouldn't sleep until that was resolved, I spent the next hour online and finally "chatting" (online) with another Turkish Airlines agent. In the end, I had to depart two days later than planned. So while I lost a vacation day when I arrived, I gained two days going home. I think that means I "won" vacationing, right? :) In case you're wondering ...
-- Kathy
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 Note: This is not a sponsored post. I purchased all of these products after researching them. A year ago, I traveled from the US to Europe with carry-on luggage. The only real challenge I had was fitting all of my liquids into the required quart-sized bag. I got them all in there, but it wasn't easy, and when they asked me to open the bag during my connection in London, it was a real pain in the neck.
So over the last year I was determined to reduce the number of liquids I use when I travel. I gathered ideas, researched products, and made the following changes:
Update Mar 6, 2025: Tried Shampoo & Conditioner Bars (Kitsch) and liked them! In the future, I plan to try the following:
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When I travel I think I'm pretty flexible. With that said, I value a reasonable shower. And over the years I've had some issues with showers in Europe; mostly related to water containment. Maybe I'm not as flexible as I think I am or maybe I just don't understand how to shower the European way. So ... When I planned my first solo trip to Paris a couple of years ago, I made sure to carefully consider the shower situation as I searched for a small apartment to rent. I found what appeared to be a great option. The apartment was small, which was fine. It was cute, which was appealing. And it was in a great location, which felt safe. But ... there were no pictures of the shower. Via the VRBO website, I was able to ask the owner for a shower description or photos. After a bit of back and forth he wrote: I don’t know how to send pictures there ... thé d’homériques is simple And Work perfectly ... what do you want to know more !!" At that point I decided to let it go (at least with him), book the place, and arrive prepared. Even with the mysterious shower, it seemed like my best option. So after booking the apartment, I started thinking about how to "arrive prepared". It got easier when the owner sent me the WhatsApp contact info for the apartment manager/cleaning man whom I promptly contacted and asked for photos of the shower. He wasn't able to provide any, but connected me with the owner's wife, who was staying at the apartment at the time. She understood my question and sent multiple photos immediately. That helped the planning process a lot! Her photos made it clear that there was an opening with no door nor curtain, and a hand held shower. So here are the contents of the shower upgrade "kit" I assembled and brought with me:
-- Kathy
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Traveling alone in retirement wasn't a goal, but when it became obvious that European travel was giving my husband long lasting migraines, we had to rethink our plans. I described this in the recent Expect the Unexpected post. One friend suggested that traveling alone would make her feel self-conscious, but I love it and appreciated that another friend produced a recent AARP Bulletin article called "Travel for One". The article points out that "Fueled by women over 55, solo vacations are becoming increasingly popular".
While I never expected to be traveling alone in retirement, here are five unexpected pleasures I've discovered along the way.
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Relatively early in our retirement, we took a three and a half week trip to Europe and visited three countries; Spain, France and Belgium. It was wonderful! About nine months later I was ready to plan our next adventure. Given the fun we'd had on the previous trip, more European destinations seemed logical. When I asked my husband which places he wanted to visit he asked, "You want to go again? Already?" Apparently he wasn't eager to go again. Or at least not so soon. That shocked me! We'd spent over 30 years working hard and saving so that we could "travel in retirement". His ho-hum attitude about European travel threw me for a loop and had me re-thinking how I was going to spend the second half of my life. It's worth mentioning that my husband suffers from migraines, and overseas travel and many foods trigger them. Even though he's a really good sport, he made it clear that Europe with a migraine isn't all that magical. For the next few months I did some serious thinking and took some imaginary trips via YouTube. I stumbled across the concept of "Solo Travel" and listened to advice from a number of female solo travelers. Interestingly, they were all young, but as far as I could tell, age would only make my experience easier. I also thought about traveling with friends more and do enjoy that, but I found myself wondering what I'd do if I was able to make every decision myself. The thought was suprisingly energizing. Up to that point, I'd never considered the idea of traveling alone, and initially I wondered if I could do it in a foreign country. It took me a while to realize that I'd done it many times in the past for business, and I figured a leisure trip would only be easier. The next thing I knew, I'd booked a flight to Paris and it departed in 27 days. Then I rented a tiny apartment. (And by tiny, I mean tiny; Airbnb advertised it as 194 sq ft - not meters.) The. Trip. Was. Heavenly. Having spent over 30 years working full time and raising kids, 11 days to myself was not too long. I could go on and on about how much I enjoyed it, but will simply include one proof point; eight months later I spent 23 days alone in Rome :) Did I plan to visit Europe alone in retirement? Not in a million years. Do I enjoy spending time with my husband and even traveling with him? Yes! But I've learned that sometimes the unexpected can be even more fun than the expected. -- Kathy Related stories:
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